"Our beautiful warrior, Nicole Obenski finally put down her fighting gloves to rest on November 12, 2019. We all know the person she was and how she made us all feel... I am just so proud she stayed true to herself throughout out all of this. You can honestly only judge someone's strength and character when times are tough. When things aren't so easy. Well things have been tough for far too long for you and no matter how unjustified, it never changed the beautiful person you are or the remarkable way you treat others. If anything, you became even more kind, more caring, more patient, more loving knowing how fragile life can be. The importance to spend the moments in life not worrying about the small stuff but only focusing on the things and people that truly matter. Even on your darkest days you still brightened up every room with that beautiful smile and allowed every person to let their guard down with your open heart. You've taken that extraordinary character and put it to tremendous use as a daughter, a sister, a friend, a teacher, a colitis & cancer advocate, and of course my favorite... a wife.
Instead of asking the "why" questions, like, "Why me?", "Why Now?" and feeling sorry for herself, Nicole turned to the "how" questions, like, "How do we beat this?" and built an immediate determination to win this fight. As MLK stated, "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." Nicole embodied this quote every day.
For me, it has been my honor to be by your side through all of this hell. I know how difficult it was, and being led by the love we share I never wanted to give up or give in for you. You've said before that you've felt sorry for me during all of this, but you need to put those thoughts to rest because you would have done the same for me. Being in my corner, always keeping me motivated to fight no matter how tiring it got, always trying to find that silver lining, and never giving up hope. As we promised in our vows, in good times and in bad we were always there for each other. Over the last two months staying in the hospital with you, the few times I had to leave I immediately found myself so anxious to get back to you. That alone speaks volumes to the woman you are to me and the person you will always be remembered as.
When times are dark, you've always found your dawn, and you'll get there again I promise. Our love, no matter what... will last forever and always. I love you beyond words."